A Million Little Pieces of Lies & Lessons
January 27th, 2006· Filed Under: General Posts · Business Coaching Q&A Corner · Living & Leaving a Legacy
Controversy surrounding the book, “A Million Little Pieces” endorsed by Oprah’s famous book club, may just be pure marketing strategy by author, James Frey - or, pure con strategy.
Either way, thanks to the arduous research by The Smoking Gun surrounding the facts and lies of A Million Little Pieces, we learn the “supposed” non-fiction book was more fiction than non.
A million little lessons
If anything positive can come from this fiasco, that was, more than anything, an insult to Oprah and her work with her book club that got millions of people back to doing what’s really important - reading - is that “bad PR” is sometimes just that - bad PR.
Oprah teaches Frey about what a lie is and the consequences of conning powerful women… I guess he still has a million little lessons to learn - and perhaps if he submitted himself to going through a 12-steps program, that he demeans and puts down in his book, then perhaps he wouldn’t be in the hot water that he is, because he would have learned this lesson from his sponsor.
To me - the bottom line is that even if controversial marketing works, and despite the fact that he’s getting a ton of attention - I would never advise my coaching clients and authors to engage in something that you would not be proud of down the road.
It doesn’t matter that his book is making more and more headlines than ever with this controversy - the fact that he deceived others by letting them think it was all truth, will diminish trust in the author - which means - good luck with any future book you ever thought of writing as a sequel.
Why was Oprah embarrased?
People trust Oprah - so when she recommends a book, people automatically pick it up and say, “Hey! This MUST be a great book because OPRAH says so!”
Oprah knows she wields this type of power and influence on millions of Americans - and she takes that responsibility very seriously.
But this doesn’t mean any of the journalists should be taking jabs on Oprah - because all she did was share a book she found interesting with her audience. We’re all still responsible to decide whether it’s a book WE would enjoy reading.
I must admit… the cover of the book is interesting, and I was tempted to pick up the book the last few times I was in the book aisle at Costco. But something kept stopping me. Something about the back cover, or the text inside. And then, when I did a little research when I returned home on the internet, I found an audio clip of the author reading his book. And that did even more to convince me this book was not for me.
Within the first few sentences, this guy insults people who have addictions, insults the 12-step program, which I’ve seen help dozens of people when I worked at a social service agency, and he pooh-poohs the concept of God.
Well - perhaps if he believeed in the power of prayer - he might have gotten “the message” from a “Higher Power” that what he was about to do, deceive the American people - was simply… wrong.
Oprah questions him in un-Oprah-esque fashion
Looks like Dr. Phil is rubbing off on Oprah - in a good way. Oprah sure helps Frey understand what a lie is and the consequence of telling lies when he came back on her show so she could ask a million little questions. And boooooy! Did she let him have it!
I’ve never seen Oprah like this. I have an all new respect for her.
She knows how to captivate and entertain an audience, but ultimately she delivers a product that she can be proud of. And it infuriates me that something like this would happen, and thereby discourage her from continuing to invite authors on her show to talk about their books, and put her seal of endorsement on her favorite books.
I hate when people talk about the person who was deceived (the victim) as though they were somehow inadequate - how they were “conned”. To me, that’s simply deflecting the real blame and the real issue - of the character of the con man himself. Let’s not cast expursions on those who have been “fooled”. Let’s put the real blame and responsibility where it lies. With James Frey- and James Frey only.
My message to Oprah:
Keep on promoting the practice of reading. And whatever you feel, don’t feel duped. Show women all across America that women never need to feel bad for trusting people. That’s a natural quality of the innocent. Only the people who are conning others should feel bad and suffer the consequences.
It reminds me of The Paradoxical Commandments, by Dr. Kent M. Keith where it talks about how people may treat you poorly and deceive you, possibly even use you, despite your goodwill towards them, yet - the author promptly encourages you to “Do the right thing anyway!”
We never want to allow others to change our personality, nor encourage us to behave against our character - and that includes how we market and engage in obtaining publicty.
Final Thoughts:
I saw an article that looked like a bookstore was offering refunds for anyone who bought his book. To me - that should come directly out of Frey’s pocket.
What do you think? Share your comments below…
And do you think it’s ever ok to lie to get more publicity?
Or do you think there’s a clear line between getting attention for your products and services, and that you should never compromise your character - even if it means less profit in your pocket.
Deborah Micek is known as the “Business Communication Coach” by business owners around the world thanks to members of the Business Owners Coaching Club™.
Official Life Coach for the Dream Makeover Hawaii TV show aired on NBC, internationally published author and weekly columnist for the business section of the Honolulu Star Bulletin. Deborah is a managing partner with the international small business coaching company RPM Success Group Inc.®

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January 30th, 2006 at 3:21 pm
Hey Coach,
I love your site. This post was really interesting and well done. I too was troubled by his constant negation of 12 step programs. But the more I read, the more it seemed he was doing the steps, even if he didn’t think so. He better do an inventory quick…but really, I’m torn on what this means. The clear lies about facts seem bizarre. But the idea that Memoir means every word is as it happened, it not true and never has been. Still, I see the problem and hope people are more careful about what they call “truth.”
January 31st, 2006 at 11:38 am
Aloha Kathie,
Too funny that Frey’s unconsciously doing the 12-steps yet knocking them down in his book at the same time. That’s an interesting observation.
While you’re right in re: to memoirs being “memories” of someone’s life… they are NOT and never have been novel-like, and deliberately made up stories of how one WANTED his life to be.
That’s why this is so troubling - b/c when one person gets away with it - it begs the question in everyone’s mind… how many OTHER memoirs were made up and not based on facts?
For instance… Oprah’s next book listed in her famous book club, is “Night“, by Elie Wiesel and has always been portrayed as non-fiction and autobiographical - yet, now, people are starting to talk about his book describing his time spent in a Nazi concentration camp, wondering if it’s really all true.
Therein lies the horror.
Contrary to James Frey’s events in his life (other than his drug addiction) the Holocaust DID occur, and there are documents, film footage, and countless eye-witnesses who experienced the horror.
Yet… we somehow have sane people actually questioning if the Holocaust ever happened. This amazes me! And Frey’s book does nothing to help dispel that stupid question (and yes, this is evidence that there really ARE stupid questions)!
While a memory may not have every single detail precisely recorded compared to a historical document, my bet is that Elie won’t have to make up or twist one single truth to his story to make the reader weep with sympathy for what he went through. For what millions and millions and millions and millions and millions and millions of people went through - and died as a result of what happened in Germany.
All because people did nothing - even when they saw the wrong - right before their very eyes.
It’s one thing for Frey to alter someone’s identity in his book to protect the innocent. But to build himself up as a character that never existed, and to deliberately lie about events that never even occured in his life is not only a lie - it’s simply “wrong”.
There is good and bad in life. And this is simply - a bad thing.
The bottom line:
Readers draw strength from reading someone’s story, and once a reader learns that half of the amazing things that happened in a book were completely false - that person’s faith and strength and courage are shot down.
I just feel bad for Oprah in all of this, because all she was trying to do is inspire people to read - which is - a good thing.
February 9th, 2006 at 9:12 am
Hello everyone,
I sent my copy of “A Million Little Pieces” to Oprah Winfrey
I think Oprah should be more carefull before recommending a bogus non-fiction book.
I would really like her to reimburse me as well.
How about, “A Million Little Refunds”.
Wouldn’t it be fun if the Post Office had to deliver
A Million Little Packages to Oprah’s studio?
February 10th, 2006 at 4:19 pm
Aloha Leonard,
Thanks for posting your honest comments.
But the problem with sending it back to her is that she is not the publisher. If you want a refund, you’d need to pursue the Million Little Pieces publisher - as I’ve heard there have been many attempted returns ever since the Smoking Gun and Oprah’s follow up grilling interview with the author.
Returning the book to Oprah would be like returning something to your best friend who recommended a book. They’re simply telling you what they liked - they’re not there researching it for you.
In our society, we like to place blame.
But in order to hold publishers accountable for classifying books in the right genre and category, you’d need to take it up with the actual publisher who choose not to do a little fact-checking before publishing and promoting the book.
IF you want to affect CHANGE - and not just make some political statement - that’s what I would recommend. Then you’re using your time and resources in the right direction.
February 24th, 2007 at 6:29 am
Listen you are all missing the point perhaps it was indeed deceitful of frey to call this book non fiction and memoir..The fact is,it is an emotive and inspiratioal tale of one mans plight to repair the damage he self inflicted on himself and his life,,that is what this book is all about,the sooner people grasp that ,grasp the raw emotions and strugal of one man to overcome his substance abuse and alchohalism.People please wake up fiction or non fiction memoir,biography,non biography or whatever other title you choose to apply,this book is one thing…a compelling and emotionaly charged story of one mans plight to piece together his life and survive.
October 11th, 2010 at 3:05 pm
Oprah is an incredible human being with a big heart, incredible mind and a good reader.